Showing posts with label hurt. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hurt. Show all posts

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Love vs. the Machine








When he had received the drink, Jesus said, "It is finished." With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit. John 19:30 NIV

 

 



Now there is something which the other Gospels make clear.  He bellowed, shouted, just before He let death take Him and it is not something to miss.  He hollered while hanging on the cross, “It is finished!”  Why would He yell that?  Why would He want to make sure everyone witnessing His death heard that?  Why did Jesus leave that as His last statement before giving up His Spirit?  Consider carefully what Jesus made clear was His reason in life, His purpose.  “The Son of Man has come to seek and to save what was lost.” (Luke 19: 10 NIV)  Jesus came to seek out and save those lost in their sin, those alienated from God and hopeless.  He came in other words to rescue people.  In 1Peter 2:21-25a is the delineation of what this meant.  …Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example that you should follow in his steps. "He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth." When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed. For you were like sheep going astray… (NIV)



What was finished when Jesus died?  He sought you out.  He found you and all your sin.  He then bore them on the cross and when He died, your sins died with Him.  He suffered the insults of people.  He was beaten by people.  He was nailed to a cross by people.  Then He let people mock Him until He died.  He looked at people and not one time did He call any of them a machine. Not one time did He turn from them like you would turn from a machine.  He looked at you.  He loved you.  He bore your sins and let them die in His body.  When all your rebellion against Him came into His body, when all the shabby ways you have treated people came into His body, when every cruel and selfish and indecent act of yours came into His body, He made it clear you were not a machine only to be used; He gave you His love.  He held onto your eternal life because you are not a machine…He did not let it go when the horror of death came upon Him.  You He loves because you are a person.  Not a person who has done great things.  Not a person who has accomplished great tasks.  Not a  person who has made Him better.  You are a person and that is reason enough for Jesus to bear your sins and love you.



How can you respond to that?  What can you do after that?  We are told to follow in His steps.  Never look at someone again and see a machine...a clump of corpuscles and nerve cords you might use and disregard like a tool in the shed  See a person you love.  Today, see a person before you and love.  See your crazy neighbor and love.  See your father and love.  See your mother and love.  See your boss and love.  See your husband or wife and love.  See your brother and love.  See your sister and love.  See the bitter, angry, frustrated, sarcastic, disturbed, self-serving, gossipy, traitorous, untrustworthy, conceited, negative, immoral, unbelieving, ungrateful person across from you and love.  We love…because He first loved us!



Monday, May 12, 2008

A Frightening Seminar To Lead


I have been asked to lead a seminar on sexual abuse at a local church and it frightens me. It has been more than 20 years since I last worked actively with abused children and I honestly wonder what I have to offer. Yet I have dealt with numerous adult women who were victims of sexual abuse and rape and the devastation they suffer still continues to astound me. In the chapter on Darkness in Transformed I touch on it but in a vague and illustrative way only. The darkness rape or sexual abuse brings is perhaps the worst I know. Nearly every woman I have met who came to me for counseling because of profound difficulties in relationships or drug abuse was as a child molested. I can almost sense because of the symptoms I observe as the discussion deepens that a woman has been sexually abused before she begins to hint at it. The numbers of women who have been traumatized, in some cases irreparably by rape or sexual abuse is mulitplying at a frightening rate and I think this is the frontier the church has been most afraid and poorly equiped to enter. Let me illustrate the problem for us. A child is molested at your church by an adult that everyone loves and trusts. The little girl has no mechanism for expressing what happend to her and so she stuffs her morbid re-living of the event into her broken little heart. As she grows into adolescence, her damaged sense of self and her corrupted view of church work in conjuction to create a young woman who is poisoned by guilt (she must have caused the molestation because the man who did it is too nice a Christian to be a bad man) and tries mightily to love a God who did not stop the abuse and lets her remain in constant pain over what happened. Combine that with a deep mistrust of men and an inability to form lasting love relationships outside a very tiny circle of trusted people and you have a splintered psyche that finds almost no solace in prayer, barely if any comfort in marriage and a scrambled love/hate relationship with her own children. I am praying that I can enter into the discussion so that at least a few churches in our area can not only watch for sexual abuse among the kids they see but also be a home for young women (and men) who are breaking apart their own homes because they are so wounded that they perpetuate their pain by not being able to receive or express the love they so desperately long to hold. I hope I can be of help in a small and very limited way...