1 Thessalonians 5:11
NIV
Therefore encourage
one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Have You Been Searching For A Heart Of Gold?
As I was finishing my classes for my doctoral
degree, I was scrambling to try and come up with an adequate topic for my
dissertation. There were countless
possibilities but if I were to spend two years of my life dedicated to the
project, I wanted it to be something that mattered; something that I could look
back upon and feel like the work had an impact upon my field. I knew that was a lofty aspiration, one I
could probably never attain but nonetheless, it seemed worth pursuing. While in a meeting with other staff members
at work, I brought up my struggle to come up with a meaningful topic. Several were suggested and then a friend of
mine said I should do a study looking at the effect having a foster child had
on the families where they were placed.
It sounded like such a great project and the research felt important to
me. What a benefit it would be to foster
families if they had some idea what it would mean to them taking a foster child
into their homes. And yet I did not feel
up to the challenge. I did not have any
experience with such types of research and did not know anyone at the seminary
who had been involved in this kind of study and none of my doctoral advisors
seemed qualified to help me with the statistical aspects of the research. As I was about to cast the idea aside as
impossible for me to pursue, one of my co-workers, who had spent several years
doing research at a university, offered to help me. She said she would meet with me and give me
advice on my work. Elaine kept her promise
and the hours she spent advising me and helping me with my statistical analyses
were invaluable to me and the success of my dissertation. I have framed in my office the card she gave
me congratulating me on earning my doctorate.
She was a perfect friend; one whose kindness I will never forget.
Years ago Neil Young wrote a song titled “Heart of
Gold”. In it he sung about his inability
to find someone with a heart of gold despite his ongoing search that had lasted
a lifetime. It is not easy finding
people like that; the truth is some never do. Many haven’t developed
friendships that make them better people, never have had a real friend to count
on when they are having a rough go of it.
There are those, even with countless acquaintances and work associates,
who can’t think of anyone to look to for support. The Apostle Paul near the end of his life
made the heart-rending comment that when he faced a traumatic ordeal, he was
all alone. At my first defense, no
one came to my support, but everyone deserted me. May it not be held against
them. (2 Timothy 4:16 NIV)
Not everyone in the Bible though struggled to find a
friend when one was needed. David, when
he was running for his life from the king of Israel had a friend who was
passionately loyal to him. Hiding in the
desert with a cabal of warriors, David was exhausted psychologically,
spiritually and maybe even physically.
His good friend though, who happened to be the son of the man trying to
hunt down David and have him killed, suddenly appeared and lifted David’s spirits. And Saul's son Jonathan went to David at
Horesh and helped him find strength in God.
"Don't be afraid," he said. "My father Saul will not lay
a hand on you. You will be king over Israel, and I will be second to you. Even
my father Saul knows this." (1 Samuel 23:16-17 NIV)
One book of the Bible is named after a great friend. Ruth, who herself was a widow and struggling
with her own loss, refused to let her mother-in-law be alone in her time of
sorrow. Having lost her two sons and her
husband, Naomi quite understandably fell into a depression. Feeling abandoned by God, Naomi just wanted
to return to her hometown of Bethlehem and mourn there. Yet one of her daughters-in-law, Ruth,
wouldn’t let go of her. She insisted
that they stay together and was willing to leave her own village and family
members and friends to remain close to Naomi.
Her pledge is one of the loveliest declarations of friendship found in
literature. "Don't urge me to
leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay
I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be
buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but
death separates you and me." (Ruth 1:16-17 NIV)
A friend of mine reminded me of a poignant scene in
the movie, The Passion of the Christ.
As Jesus was carrying the Cross through Jerusalem, bloodied and bruised,
He stumbled and fell to the ground.
Mary, His mother was standing nearby and saw Him collapse. Just as this happened, her thoughts flashed
back to a moment when as a child, Jesus fell and scraped His knee. Mary rushed to Him and picked young Jesus up
and comforted Him in her arms. In a flash,
Mary flung herself down before Jesus in the road, gazed into His weary eyes,
and tenderly mouthed to Him, “I’m here!”
The Bible uses a vivid term to express a simple way
we can make the world a better place to live.
It is the Greek word “parakaleo” and it is rendered “encourage” in many
English translations of the New Testament.
It literally means, “to call alongside”.
In the Gospel of John, Jesus says that the Holy Spirit is the “Parakletos”,
the noun form of the word “parakoleo”.
It means “the encourager”, “the one who picks you up and helps you keep
going”. Jesus, by describing the Holy
Spirit this way says that God in you is a strengthener, a motivator, a friend who
stands by you. God’s people are
commanded to be encouragers, uplifters, faithful friends who are loyal. How can we be that sort of people though all
the time? Won’t we get drained if we
keep pouring ourselves into others? Not
if we allow the Encourager God to replenish our internal supply of courage,
mental toughness and joy! As we move
toward the end of time and it gets tougher and tougher for people to avoid
depression, not be pulled to commit suicide, stay out of alcoholism and drug abuse,
not melt under the heat of anxiety and worry, the Bible tells us that Christian
people must be there for others. Therefore
encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. (1
Thessalonians 5:11 NIV) The Lord insists
this must be a priority of ours every single day! “But encourage one another daily…”
(Hebrews 3: 13 NIV)
Who will you reassure today? Who is on your list to comfort, to
encourage? No one wears a sign that reads,
“I am depressed”. “I am ready to
quit.” “I feel hopeless.” “My life doesn’t matter.” There aren’t red
lights on the foreheads of your family members or co-workers that flash when
they are discouraged and broken. You
just have to assume that the Holy Spirit, who encourages you and wants you to
encourage others, will put it in your mind those who need you to say something
loving, something supportive, something uplifting. Perhaps you will be the voice God uses to
give courage to someone, to motivate someone, to breathe life into someone. With Christ living in you and through you, I
wonder who it might be that will remember you always as the one who was there
when life got rough and it seemed hopeless, who became the voice of God for
them. Who might one day look at you as
the inspiration that led to a new direction in life? Who will point to you as the reason they
found new life and hope when they were lost and without the love of Christ to
give them strength? Who needs you to
say, “I’m here”?
